Pointed questions may disrupt holiday joy

Different lives

Young people who work in big cities usually go home once or twice a year, often during holidays. Most of the time, they and their relatives work and live in different fields and places, which results in a huge gulf between them.

In the happy Spring Festival atmosphere, the relatives usually chat with each other to avoid appearing bored when they gather together. Later, the older relatives start conversations by raising the questions that interest them the most.

Yang Yuting, who started a technology internship in Shanghai at the end of last year, said: "As my family's oldest child, I am naturally the focus of inquiries from aunts and uncles. They ask me about my job, relationships and other things, but the questions don't embarrass me anymore."

The 25-year-old comes from Anhui province, but her family now lives in Suzhou, Jiangsu province. Their relatives live quite near them, so they can meet frequently, which provides Yang's aunts and uncles with plenty of information about her situation.

"I think it is fine that they ask me some personal questions. I usually answer patiently, but what I cannot bear is that they sometimes like to judge my situation based on their own experiences," she said.

"For instance, some of my relatives think girls should find a stable job after graduation, then have a steady relationship and get married, rather than spending too much time on so-called interests."